A Few Mind Shifting Tips for Cultivating a Growth Mindset at Home
Help children reconnect with a time when they learned something new that was a stretch or a challenge.
Point out the developmental nature of getting good; we all go through the process of making a lot of mistakes, practising, and then getting better.
Help children get curious about mistakes.
Help them reframe a mistake as new information or as a step in the process of learning. In addition, help them incorporate self-correction in their own learning process.
Help children learn to hear their own fixed mindset voice.
Capture and, in a gentle and appropriate way, share their statements with them; most children are unaware of this self-talk because it has gone on so long and is subliminal.
- That guy is brilliant; he never tries and he gets it
- I got it wrong again, I’ll never get this
Help children talk back to negative self-talk with a growth mindset voice (i.e. give them language).
- I am willing to learn new skills to improve, and I know it will hard at times
- I get better and better with practice, this is hard, but will get easier
Model growth-mindset at the table
- At dinner: Tell your child about a time when you didn’t know the answer to a recent question. Who did you ask for help? How did you learn the answer?
- At breakfast: Ask questions about their opportunities for learning and growth in the coming day or week. What questions do they need answers to? What do they want to learn, practice, and/or get better at today/this week?
Avoid labels and give growth-mindset praise
- Don’t label yourself in ways that model a fixed mindset ( I’m a terrible cook….I was never good at maths)
- Shift your child’s attention to process that led to outcome. (i.e., cause effect)
- Praise and value effort, practice, self-correction, and persistence.
- Don’t shelter your child from a failed task. Ask “What can you learn from this experience? What could you try differently the next time?”
Get curious about your child’s work through questioning
- How did you figure that out?
- What’s another way you could have done that?
- How many times did you try before it turned out that way?
- What here was challenging and how did you figure it out?
- What do you plan to do next time?